Make a Friend at Work, and Then They Leave…
If it hasn’t already happened several times, its bound to happen to you. You work at developing a relationship, small talk over coffee, and maybe even dinner and drinks, then out of nowhere your friend and coworker leaves you high and dry.
Sometimes the departure leaves you with more work, sometimes it just leaves an emptiness in the office that was once filled with playful banter and even in some instances flying objects. Some people believe you should keep work and friendship separate (see comment section). I have to say I disagree. Although you should not force a relationship at work, why refrain from a friendship if it happens to form? After all, you do spend 12 hours a day, 70 hours a week with these people. Most people won’t remain at a job in which they can’t stand the people they work with.
Some people take friendship even further. In our office alone I need both hands and all my feet to count the intra-office hook ups/relationships/marriages. The way I always explain it is: take a bunch of fairly fresh college students, give them money, add liquor and a week long training… you fill in the rest.
But is it best to become friends with your co-workers, even knowing they will most likely leave you at some point for a new water-cooler and new friends? In the end I say yes, it is always worth making friends at work, even if they leave, wait no, especially if they leave!
Public accounting is a great example of this. You work tons of hours closely with the same people, and like the tower of Babel, everyone goes off in different directions. Other firms, industry, consulting, etc… What were once office buddies have now turned into business contacts leaving you a network of leads, jobs, and connections. Just remember to stay in contact!
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